‘I Choose Us’

I was in the cardio cinema the other day at Gold's Gym. The Family Man with Nicholas Cage was playing. This is a movie I have seen many times and even though i'm not a Cage fan, I think the movie is great and has a really good storyline and message.

In one of the final scenes the two main characters, Jack and Kate (Tea' Leoni and Nicholas Cage are having a discussion. I won't go into all the details, but at the end Kate just tell's Jack, 'I choose us... i'm willing to move our kids to the city, uproot them from a home we became a family in, and do whatever it is you need to do, because I love you and I choose us Jack.'

Let's be honest, i'm a single person. I've never been married, so i'm not going to wax philosophical about being married, or pretend to know how hard it is to make a marriage work. I will say this though, I love this line. For some reason even though i have seen the show many times, it really struck me hard as I was running on the treadmill in that darkened cinema, and really made me think. What a great sentiment--'I choose us.'

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I think that is what needs to happen. In a marriage all other selfishness needs to fall to the wayside. You need to care about your spouse enough to 'choose us' fight for what it is you fell in love with in the first place. Don't choose yourself, choose them.

That's it... hope all you married people out there 'choose us.'

Thoughts

I know, it's been forever, i'm not great at this blogging thing.

Things on my mind right now:

1. Going to the park on a Sunday afternoon to read, write in my journal, take a nap, or just lay on my back staring up through the trees is my favorite way to spend the afternoon.

2. The more you love someone, the more disappointed you are when they make bad decisions.

3. Sometimes it’s okay to take a small break from being social, to have a few hours of quality Adrienne time—time with just myself. Take a breath and sort out my life.

4. If you play with fire, you will most inevitably get burned. Yes, at times it’s fun and exciting, but eventually the burn hurts.

5. I’m excited that Fall is well on its way. I love this time of year, and I love football. I’m not so excited that it will start to get cold. I’m not ready for cold temps, and I’m not even remotely ready for snow.

6. Good-byes are the worst. It's been like 4 weeks since my little brother went into the MTC. I'm doing okay, i miss him, but luckily i'm very happy he's on a mission and know he's doing the right thing. I don't like good-byes though. I'm not a cryer, but hugging him good-bye left me choked up, with tears falling down my face. I really don't like good-byes in general, I know it's horrible, but sometimes I would rather just slip out, without having to say good-bye, and then be gone long before anyone knows--then i don't have to say good-bye. Is that so wrong? Kind of a cop-out, i know. Just a thought.

7. Did I mention I love football? :) so excited for it.

that's all.